Monthly Newspaper • DIOCESE OF BRIDGEPORT

Pope Francis has convened the 15th Synod of Bishops for this October. Perhaps you might remember the Diocesan Synod which the Diocese of Bridgeport experienced as a family of faith a few years ago. A Synod of Bishops brings together bishops from around the world, to discuss important topics in a fraternal way with the Pope, their brother bishop and leader. The 15th Synod has as its focus “young people, faith, and vocational discernment.” It is a vital topic in a time where many young people in the United States are disaffiliating with the Church, ceasing to practice or leaving altogether.

In his wisdom, Pope Francis has invited 300 young people from around the world to come together in Rome for one week as a pre-Synodal meeting – a gathering to prepare a document which will inform the Pope and Bishops’ work in October. “Another conference?” You might think. “Why is this relevant?”

What stands out about this week’s gathering is that it actually calls together the topics of the conversation to be protagonists of the conversation. It is authentic to actually bring the people that you are talking about to the table, and invite them to help shape the conversation in a way that is faithful to their lived experience. This is what Pope Francis did by asking us young people to be present this week: have a hand in the ways the Church will hear, understand, and engage with us.

What is striking to me, as one of the 300 participants, is how BIG the Church is. To spend my days with young people from sub-Saharan Africa, the furthest reaches of Asia, countries whose names I can’t pronounce – all living experiences I can only imagine. They see the Church through many lenses and live out their faith in many different ways. The global context of this occasion is so important for providing perspective: the issues which we think are of paramount importance can be far from the needs of our brothers and sisters.

Please pray for the work of this week’s gathering, where young people are leading the conversation in the Church in a new way. Come, Holy Spirit!

By: Nicole Perone, Synod Delegate

As a seminarian, I have had the privilege of having great spiritual directors. One of the first things that my spiritual directors have asked me, and continued to ask me throughout our meetings, was how frequently I went to confession. Before I entered seminary, I was going to confession every month and a half, sometimes even more infrequently. Not that that was bad, but considering that I was preparing to be a priest, I wanted to increase my exposure to confession and try to understand, on a more personal level, why my spiritual directors considered confession to be so special.

And what a difference it has made going to confession every two to three weeks! Before I considered confession to be more of an obligation than what it truly is: an opportunity to experience God’s mercy. Whenever I’m in line for confession, I try to imagine that I’m in line to meet God one on one. This is especially important to keep in mind as a seminarian since many priests in the diocese get to know us well and sometimes even recognize us simply by our voices. This is can be dangerous for me at times because I can easily let my pride get in the way of a good and holy confession. What I mean by this is that my pride can stop me from being completely honest with my confessor just because he may think less of me. However, this becomes less of a temptation once I tell myself that I am not simply confessing my sins to another human being, but rather to a God who is mercy and love.

I invite you then, to approach and trust our priests for the sacrament of confession, so that you too may experience our Lord’s mercy and love through them.

By: Guillermo Jiménez, Seminarian of the Diocese of Bridgeport

FAIRFIELD—Heavy winds and sideways hail is how Convivio began this year, much like the first which was held almost a decade ago in 2010. This year the annual high school retreat, with the theme “Made for More,” was kicked off with a nor’easter. One might describe this occurrence as “God humor,” as will be the last year Convivio will be held with the Fraternas; the Lord might have found it funny to bookend this era with winter storms.
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What is a sacrament? It is an outward sign of God’s grace instituted by Christ. I never really thought about this much, and even recently as I have grown old and withered, I haven’t thought much of that meaning of the word sacrament or the grace that comes from it.

But when I go to confession, the pastor will say to me. “Son, what are you doing with the grace you receive here?” And I never know how to answer him. Because in all honesty, what am I actually doing with the grace that I receive from this beautiful sacrament?

This sacrament, that provides a spiritual nourishment of renewal and acceptance. This sacrament that provides a gateway for unconditional love & mercy to flow from. This sacrament that allows our hearts to be rekindled and made pure with our Father.

This sacrament, that provides us with an abundance of grace! What in the heck am I doing with it?

That is my Lenten challenge, to use the grace to bring the light and love of Christ to others who have fallen away.

My friends, let us ask ourselves, what are we actually doing with this abundance of Grace poured out for us in the sacrament of reconciliation, and how can we use it to bring the light and love of Christ to others during this time of renewal & repentance during this season of Lent.

By: Mike Falbo, Youth Minister

This year’s dual feast of St. Valentine and Ash Wednesday is more than a mere coincidence. Both feasts are rooted in love. In fact, all of reality is rooted in God, the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end.  St. Valentine, a priest who was concerned with the state of sin of young soldiers living with women in an impure manner, sought to educate the soldiers and bless their unions. Ultimately, this cost him his life. He was killed by Emperor Claudius who forbade marriage for soldiers.  This love which was exhibited by St. Valentine is the same type of love Christ has for us.

Ash Wednesday leads us to a voyage of the greatest feast of sacrificial love. These two events (Valentine day and Ash Wednesday) have a deep relationship in self-sacrificing love and it has a message for us: true love self-sacrificing. True love is all about caring for one another in every context of life – in schools, hospitals, and most especially on the streets of our cities. This holy season of Lent, let us dedicate ourselves to loving our neighbor, especially those most in need. Let us not simply ‘play at’ Christianity, attending church but not genuinely wanting to repent. Let us spend Valentine’s Day in church, not restaurants, embracing the opportunity to draw ourselves closer to God.

By: Chidi Izuazu, Holy Land Pilgrim

I prayed a lot about a word that I would keep in mind during our pilgrimage to the Holy Land. The word abide came to mind early on in prayer. To sit, remain, dwell. With all that we would be seeing and doing, I realized how important it would be to be present in each moment and intentional at each holy site.

Being fully present proved to be the only way to fully grasp all of the wonder we experienced. Being fully present. To each other. To the holy sites. To Jesus.

Some of the moments that really stood out to me were when our group would read the passage of Scripture that coincided with the site we were visiting and we would have time to sit in quiet reflection. It was in those moments, in the places where Jesus walked, that peace surrounded us.

I thought about how I could apply this to my daily life when I returned home. In the Holy Land, walking the way of the Cross, it seems so simple…but back in our busy lives it becomes more difficult.

Abide. To sit, remain, dwell.

I’m learning this slow and hard. So many things fight for our attention.

But what is God asking from us? One day at a time. One small yes at a time. Obedience.

When we take time to be with Him in prayer, we can almost feel the breeze over the Sea of Galilee and see the sunset at Capernaum. And we realize that it is His presence that is always with us, no matter where we are. It is His love, which fills us with peace, in which we must abide.

By: Libby Clyons, Holy Land Pilgrim

When our group set out on our pilgrimage to the Holy Land a few weeks ago, we each had our own ideas about what we would get out of the trip. Some of these ideas were vague, some specific, but all were more or less centered on the theme of walking in the footsteps of Jesus Christ. This is the natural direction our thoughts take when we contemplate visiting the sites where the events of the Gospels took place.

And so we began our journey on the Feast of the Epiphany, staggering jet-lagged and bleary-eyed into Bethlehem. The wise men who had also traveled from distant lands to see the Christ child no doubt knew something of that exhaustion as well. Each of us has likely felt at some point that our life-long journey through this world can be tiring. But all the fatigue, the crowds, the seemingly endless waiting that we pilgrims were met with that evening culminated in silent veneration in a little grotto. To see, to touch, to kiss the place where our Heavenly King was born – this was worth all the difficulty of getting there.

“But why,” I couldn’t help thinking, “was the King born? Why did he come?” And knowing where and how our journey would end in Jerusalem, I could answer my own question, “He was born so that he could die.”

This would be the theme of my own reflection at every place we visited – Christ’s life as a journey towards his death. He took on flesh in his mother’s womb, in a little house in Nazareth, so that he could suffer in the flesh for our transgressions. Mary nursed and cared for her little child so tenderly, Joseph protected him so fiercely, so that he could die an ignominious death at the appointed time. He called his apostles on the shores of the Sea of Galilee, worked his miracles in Capernaum, and taught the people throughout the region the ways of the Lord, all so that they might believe, take up their crosses, and follow him, being baptized into a death like his.

Jesus Christ came into this world in order to die. If we are to follow in his footsteps, that means following him into the depths of darkness and suffering. It means following him into the tomb.

Which is exactly what our little band of pilgrims did as we came to Jerusalem at last. On Thursday we visited Gethsemane, the place of Our Lord’s agony and of his arrest, where the Passion began. We saw the ruins of the high priest’s house as well, the place of Peter’s denial, and we descended into the cistern where Jesus was held prisoner overnight, to meditate on the words of Psalm 88: “Thou hast put me in the depths of the Pit, in the regions dark and deep. Thy wrath lies heavy upon me…”

But we were in that pit together, fellow disciples following our master, and there was comfort in that. We Christians have the consolation of suffering together as members of the Church. We have the consolation of knowing Our Lord has gone before us into the darkness, and accompanies us in any trial. He took that wrath upon himself. When we follow him into the tomb, we do not go alone.

Friday morning we walked the surprisingly short Way of the Cross, from the site of Christ’s condemnation to death at Pilate’s palace to the Church of the Holy Sepulchre, where he was crucified, died, and was buried. Each of us carried wooden crosses as we went – little ones that were easily held in one hand, but symbols of greater things. Each of us shared a reflection on one of the stations as we walked in Our Lord’s footsteps to Calvary, together.

When we came to the Church of the Holy Sepulchre it was only mid-morning, and the church was relatively uncrowded – so different from our experience in Bethlehem mere days earlier, in so many ways. But one had led to the other, for Our Lord and for us. We had walked with him from the crèche to the cross. Somberly, quietly, we processed from the hill of the crucifixion to the stone of anointing, and at last into the tomb itself.

The Dominican friar who served as our guide that week had referred to the tomb as “the one place in the world where Jesus is not”. And in a sense that is very true – because the tomb, of course, is empty. It is the unique place where Our Lord’s absence is more significant than his presence. Christ did not remain in the tomb. It was not the end of his story, and neither was it really the end of our journey.

When all of us had gone into the tomb, and come out, we went to the little side chapel and celebrated Our Lord’s resurrection with the Holy Mass. St. John Paul II famously said of the Church, “We are an Easter people,” and it was that Easter Sunday joy that we proclaimed on a Friday in ordinary time.

Jesus Christ did not remain in the tomb, and if we are to follow in his footsteps, then neither can we. We must enter into it together, acknowledging our sins and enduring our trials, but together we must also come out again. We are baptized into Christ’s death so that we can share in his resurrection. We step out of the darkness of sin into the light of grace, pass through death into a new creation.

And then the journey really begins.

By: Catherine Costanzo, Holy Land Pilgrim

On January 5th a group of “strangers” and I embarked on a pilgrimage to the Holy Land, and our lives were forever changed. Each stop was more breathtaking and moving than the next.

When January 13th came along, and It was time for the trip to end, the “strangers” I had only met once before the trip were now my close friends. A lot of us were in denial of that fact we were going home and spent the majority of the 12 hour flight stopping by each others seats, talking about how we would adjust to our normal lives when we got home.

What we are all realizing now is, though the trip is over, each of our journeys are just beginning. We have to figure out how to live out the Gospel in our day to day lives.

Something we all talked about right before we left is we are in the same spot, physically and mentally, that the disciples were in. They had to figure out what they were going to do next. They had to get the courage to step out and be the witness’ they were called to be, which is exactly what my fellow Pilgrims and I are called to do right now.

If the disciples were able to say, “Yes.” to God and carry out the word, I pray we find that same strength within ourselves to say, “Yes” to God every day.

By: Marcelle Morrisey, Recent Young Adult Holy Land Pilgrim

“What are you looking for?”

This was the focal point of our pilgrimage. That throughout this journey, open our hearts, open our minds, and discover the answer to the question that tugs at the center of our lives.

In the grotto at the Church of Annunciation, the place where Our Lady said, “YES” to the will of God, I found myself falling prostrate, hands covering my heart, and saying, “O Mary conceived without sin, pray for us who have recourse to thee.” It was in these thirteen words that my answer began to form. I am searching for a way to draw more closely to the heart of Christ. I want to conform myself to His will, transform myself into a being that says, “FIAT”, and that says, “I am your servant O Lord.” This can only be done by asking the intercession of Our Blessed Mother. St Louis de Montfort says, “To Jesus through Mary.” To draw near to His heart, to completely and totally transform ourselves, the path leads through Our Lady.

This pinnacle moment happened at the beginning of our journey. And thankfully, I was able to apply it to the rest of the pilgrimage. As I approached every holy site, I would offer that moment & encounter up to Our Lord, say a Hail Mary, and begin to draw near to Him.

Let us ask the Lord, that by His Mother, we may be more able to draw near to the Sacred Heart of Christ.

By: Mike Falbo

Youth Minister and Holy Land Pilgrim

I’ve always loved tradition. Even when I was little, Christmas wasn’t complete without going to Mass with my family, lighting the Advent wreath, and driving around to see beautiful luminary displays.

As I’ve grown older, the traditions of the Advent and Christmas seasons are still important to me, although they have now taken on a deeper meaning.

One tradition that my family and I have always shared centers on the Nativity scene. We place the baby Jesus in the manger on Christmas Day (along with an off-key rendition of Happy Birthday). The placement of Jesus in the manger signifies the completion of the Nativity scene that has been awaiting its missing piece. Just like the Nativity scene, I have been awaiting the birth of Our Lord throughout the Advent season. On Christmas Day, the waiting and preparation of Advent is over, and the Lord has come into my heart once more. Now the real celebrations can begin.

During the time in between Christmas and the Epiphany, the Church celebrates both the Feast of the Holy Family (Sunday, December 31st) and the Solemnity of the Blessed Virgin Mary, Mother of God (Monday, January 1st). As I gaze upon the Nativity scene, I remember the Holy Family, Mary’s “yes” and Saint Joseph’s willing obedience.

On the Epiphany we add the wise men to the scene, the Magi who traveled from afar to gaze upon the face of the Messiah. Adding and praying about these different elements of the Nativity scene help me enter in to the season in a very real and tangible way.

It is hard not to get caught up in all that the secular world offers at Christmas time, but being Catholic, I know that our celebration is just beginning. We celebrate the birth of Christ into our world and into our hearts. Instead of taking down all the decorations the moment the last present is unwrapped… this year, I will linger over the humble manger a bit longer.

By: Libby Cylons

“How can this be?” These are the words we hear Mary respond to the Angel in Luke’s Gospel, when he informs her that she will conceive the Messiah. (Not big news or anything, right?) This is frequently my response to many moments in life that catch me by surprise or change my plans. I often find myself focusing less on what God wants from me in that moment, and more on the details – maybe it wasn’t what I wanted, what I expected, or what I had prepared for. The thing is, the phrase Mary responds with is not the end of her story. 

While we, in our humanity, get caught up in control of our lives, Mary shows us even in her humanity, the great ending that can come from trusting God. Mary continues, “Behold, I am the handmaiden of the Lord. Be it done to me according to your word.” In other words, “God, I’m here to serve you. Do whatever you wish with my life.” She doesn’t stop in the details. She submits to the fact that maybe, just maybe, God has something incredible in store for her. Mary, especially during advent, teaches me to wait with joy, rather that anxiety, or distrust. She left us all with the perfect example of humility: it’s okay to ask questions – of course! Yet if we remain faithful, with an open heart, God might reveal himself to us. That, it seems, is much better than my own plans.”

By: Jessica Mazal

30 of us began our pilgrimage to NCYC from the Bridgeport Diocese to Yonkers. What a beautiful surprise to worship at the St. Joseph’s Seminary with approximately 90 more pilgrims. We would embark together on two buses through the night.

Feeling God’s presence at the onset set the tone for our group as we gradually became comfortable and closed our eyes trusting that God was guiding our drivers.

Teens are fearless in meeting other people especially 25 thousand other teens who would soon be decorating each other with pins, hats, bracelets, clothespins and of course free hugs!

Hope was everywhere!

The theme of the NCYC 2017 is called. What does it mean to be called? Through workshops, music, the saints, Mary, scripture and the Cross, we were all called to experience conversion in every activity and every encounter during these 3 ½ days together.

We were brought from a sense of uncertainty perhaps even for some brokenness to encounter deliberate change. It was just a matter of recognizing that Christ calls us in our hearts. He teaches us, forgives us, redeems us and challenges us for more. He calls us to serve, to pray, to love.

Throughout our praise and worship the message to be called was alive in our music from hard-core contemporary to monks chanting and every kind of music in between. But no where was the excitement more prevalent than in the hearts and actions of the 25K teenagers who could be found praying, singing and dancing and in silence adoring our Lord Jesus Christ.

What exactly are these teens looking for? Simply, they seek the meaning of their lives. Why did they come to Indy? They are hungry for direction. Therefore, I came to NCYC as a chaperone, to have the opportunity to bring youth to a place of direction. The youth is today’s church. For 3 days, I witnessed todays church hungry for more. I was a chaperone turned participant.

25K teens worked together in the thematic village climbing together, balancing together, hanging from ropes together, writing prayers for others, preparing meal bags. What an infectious energy! And what a testimony of a strong church.

My most profound moment was when all youth directors were asked to stand and pray for the youth we brought to NCYC. What a grace it was to pray for them and then to look out at 25K and pray for them.

During an uncertain time in our world, a world in distress, there it was, hope among our youth from all over the country in Lucas Oil Stadium. Hearts on fire, teens ready to bring the message of the gospels to others, teens eager to serve the needs of social justice issues. Teens whose hearts belong to Him the almighty. Teens who say yes to Jesus.

Changed because He calls every day for us to be more.

By:

Susan Baldwin, OFS
Director of Faith Formation / Youth Ministry
St. Andrew Church
Bridgeport, CT

As a member of the High School Apostles, I still picture my earliest days within the group. Like with any new experience, the most difficult action is to simply step through the door on that first meeting. I approached the Fraternas’ house, took a deep breath, and opened the door. I did so, thank goodness, and I experienced a community more welcoming and loving than any other group. Never had I experienced such a great sense of community and fellowship. The friends I made concreted my faith within others. Before HSA, my faith experience stressed words without actions. However, with friends that pushed me to become a stronger disciple of Christ, I could not only speak my faith but live it. One of my best experiences from HSA stems from life-changing confirmation retreats that I led for the best two years. I am so grateful for the opportunity to experience such a loving and vibrant community, and I hope others in the Diocese can come to know this beautiful group of disciples.

By: Teddy Whiteman, High School Apostle

I was from Catholic family and attended Catholic elementary school.  My friends and I would dress “like nuns” when we played school. The sisters who taught us were mostly junior professed and fun. I joined their vocation club, but meetings just served to let us hang out with our teachers after school. When I went to Catholic high school I cannot say I thought much about entering the convent (I was having too much social life.) until senior year when I was confronted with life choices and realized maybe I should consider being a sister. I knew they had a balanced life, time for prayer, time with community, and a helping profession. As I approached graduation the idea started being in the back of my mind.

One day, one of the sisters asked me if I thought I had a religious vocation. I had never dreamed anyone thought I was “convent material”. Maybe God did want me! I started to cry and retreated to the restroom until I could dry out. I decided that if I were serious I would enter the community at the high school because they were more of a cultural fit. I also greatly admired our principal who was battling cancer, heroically coming down once a day from her sickbed on the convent side to teach Latin IV to us.

Mom, who would have preferred me taking the regular route, marriage, had to be convinced. But after all these years, I have to say it’s been a wonderful life.

Sr. Nancy Strillacci A.S.C.J.

Program Director Delegate for Religious

It is hard to find a place where you can express your faith in high school; let alone find friends that have the same faith you. At youth group you’re able to do both of those. I go to youth group at Saint Catherine’s of Siena. Youth group gives me an opportunity to make friends, study Scripture, play games, and most importantly encounter Christ every Sunday. This is a beautiful chance to see that Catholicism is much more than just mass on Sundays. It is a relationship that we find through other people. I recommend youth group to anyone who wants to discover what their faith is truly about.

By: Sierra O’Keefe, senior at Notre Dame High School and member of St. Catherine of Siena youth group.